A
thought....
When you plant lettuce, if it does not grow well,
you don't blame
the lettuce. You look for
reasons it is not doing well. It may need fertilizer, or
more water, or less sun. You never blame the lettuce. Yet
if we
have problems with our friends or family [or work], we blame
the other person. But if we know how to take care of them,
they will grow well, like the lettuce. Blaming has no positive
effect at all, nor does trying to persuade using reason and
argument. That is my experience. No blame, no reasoning,
no argument, just understanding. If you understand, and you
show
that you understand, you can love, and the situation will
change.
[Thich Nhat Hanh] |